In this Mom Talk, we sit down with Mishqah Petersen to explore her extraordinary journey through love, loss, and triumph. After navigating the storm of infertility and emerging stronger, Mishqah now uses her story to inspire and guide others as a bereavement counsellor. From heartfelt advice to the mantras that keep her going, her resilience and wisdom are truly inspirational.
Tell us a bit about your journey as a mother and bereavement counsellor.
It’s been a long journey— 18 miscarriages, an ectopic pregnancy, stillbirth, failed IVF treatments, and 4 years battling secondary infertility. I finally have my rainbow baby in my arms, and my toddler is so happy to be a big sister.
My role as a registered counsellor in the field of bereavement has come full circle at times. I’ve been on both sides of the counselling room, but my experience is what fuels the heart-centred approach to my counselling practice. I can truly imagine the feelings of my patients because I’ve been in their shoes before.
What advice would you give to moms who are struggling with mental health challenges, especially those dealing with loss?
Give yourself permission to feel. Cultivating healthy mental hygiene isn’t easy at first, but “the other side” is worth the effort. You deserve to experience a quality of life where you are not overwhelmed, overstimulated, or mentally exhausted. It’s okay to ask for help—you don’t have to face the grief and pain alone.
What are some practical tips you’d offer to moms feeling overwhelmed or stretched too thin?
Focus on what is in your control. It’s okay to sit down, collect your thoughts, and have a cup of tea. Everything doesn’t have to be perfect all the time. Let go of societal pressures and expectations and mother in a way that fits your family.
We heard your dad, who’s a dentist, gave the Difrax pacifiers the thumbs up. Tell us a bit about this.
My dad has been in dentistry and dental academia for over 25 years. He is passionate about oral function and development in infants and toddlers and was really impressed when he saw the Difrax pacifiers. Unlike conventional pacifiers, these are designed to prevent oral and dental irregularities.
Is there a mantra or piece of advice that helps you stay grounded on tough days?
Mothering is hard, and struggling doesn’t mean you’re failing.
